Domestic violence against men isn't always easy to identify, but it can be a serious threat
We heard a disturbing fact; around 20 men are killed by their partners every year.
That figure shocked us. We all know domestic violence is sometimes seen as a taboo subject and women are rightly encouraged to speak up and report incidents that put them under threat. Unfortunately there are far too many women in miserable violent relationships and so recently, the spotlight has been shone on the issue.
In contrast violence against men is a largely unreported phenomenon and there are many reasons for this. Surprisingly quite a few of the reasons for the under reporting of this issue are the same as women face, shame, stigma, self blame, confused loyalty, hoping the partner will change. Now, men are more likely to stay silent about the abuse they are suffering which in turn allows the abuser to go unchecked.
20 men murdered by their partners a year is a large number, to many for us to stay silent about, we suspect in a number of these cases there will be some mental health issues at play and that is why we are always posting articles in relation to mental health provisions in this country. If murder is the ultimate and final act of domestic violence, then the numbers suggest that it is a wider problem than we could imagine.
Domestic violence — also known as intimate partner violence — occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence against men can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse and threats of abuse. It might not be easy to recognize domestic violence against men.
Early in the relationship, your partner might seem attentive, generous and protective in ways that later turn out to be controlling and frightening. Initially, the abuse might appear as isolated incidents. Your partner might apologize and promise not to abuse you again.
Domestic violence can leave you depressed and anxious. You might be more likely to abuse alcohol or drugs or engage in unprotected sex. Because men are traditionally thought to be physically stronger than women, you might be less likely to report domestic violence in your relationship due to embarrassment. You might also worry that the significance of the abuse will be minimized because you're a man. If you seek help, you also might confront a shortage of resources for male victims of domestic violence. Health care providers and other contacts might not think to ask if your injuries were caused by domestic violence, making it harder to open up about abuse. You might fear that if you talk to someone about the abuse, you'll be accused of wrongdoing yourself. Remember, though, if you're being abused, you aren't to blame.
Relationships can be an emotional rollercoaster. Throughout the ride, men and women can be everything from loving and nurturing, to sometimes verbally and even physically abusive during fights.
While aggression in heterosexual relationships is believed to stem from men, a recent study presented on June 25 at a symposium on intimate partner violence, IPV
at the British Psychological Society's Division of Forensic Psychology annual conference in Glasgow, found women are more likely to be “intimate terrorists,” or physically aggressive to their partners than
Violence of any kind weather its horse play slapping or pinching can be a sign of things to come. Know the signs and when you feel things have gone too far in the first instance draw your line.
If you feel that something’s not right listen to that feeling. Don’t suffer in silence please,